One pet peeve that shouldn’t drive you crazy, but does.
Let me start off by saying that I have a very long list of pet peeves. I’ve learned to cope with a majority of them, but there is one thing that I have yet to learn how to deal with. It has to be the most infuriating, agitating, and annoying pet peeve of all time. It also happens to be the one pet peeve of mine that no one can understand.
My pet peeve that shouldn’t really be a pet peeve, but is, is having someone “help” me with my household responsibilities.
Do you understand why it’s a pet peeve?
Okay, let me explain. 🙂
I have a huge issue with anyone cleaning up my house, doing my laundry, washing my dishes, or taking care of my children. I have four children and a husband who deploys constantly. Surely, I must need the help right?! I have to be insane to want to do everything, without any help. I must not appreciate the help other’s are offering. That isn’t the case at all.
I appreciate the help everyone offers me. I understand that my friends and family want to assist me by grabbing a screaming child from my arms to soothe them or cooking a meal for my family while I attend to other things. The thing that irks me is unless I am asking you for your assistance; please, do not take it upon yourself to take on my household responsibilities. My job as a mother is to take care of my children, whether they are screaming or laughing. Do not grab them from my arms and try to soothe them yourself. Another thing, most of the time if I haven’t folded my laundry yet because I am leaving that task for when the children are all asleep, so I can relax. Many of my responsibilities, as a wife and mother, are relaxing for me. I actually enjoy doing the dishes, most days. I thrive on a routine, and having someone come in and mess up my routine, angers me!
Now, that is not to say that you can come visit my house and not wash your own plate and make a mess. That is just inconsiderate and rude. If you eat on a plate, wash your own plate, but do not take it upon yourself without my asking, to wash all the dishes and pots. Chances are, I was planning on doing it. My reason behind this, is that I am really finicky with making sure my plates are clean, and not being wasteful with the soap.
The point to all of this is, that I hate when people take initiative to take over my job as a mother and wife. I knew what I was getting myself into when I married my husband. I knew that I would be expected to take care of the house while he worked. When I had children, even though I had more than I initially bargained for, I knew that I would have to take care of them; sometimes this means without my husband’s help. Believe it or not I actually enjoy having a house full of kids, whether they are driving me crazy or making me laugh.
I knew all of this first hand. So when someone comes to my house and starts “helping,” I feel as if they are pitying me and my lifestyle. “Poor Gabie, she must need so much help taking care of the kids and fending for herself, while her husband is gone.” I’m self-sufficient and I’m independent. I can take care of myself and my children all on my own. I am not superwoman, but I am fully capable, and if I need anyone’s help I have a mouth, that I can use to speak for myself.
So please, do not come into my home and start doing things for me. If you want to help me, stop by for coffee or tea and give me the gift of conversation; without pitying or judging my life.
What’s your Pet Peeve?